Archive for December, 2012

31
Dec
12

happy

This year is ending so much better than last!  2013, it’s going to be a great year!IMG_1888

26
Dec
12

moon boots

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26
Dec
12

the day after

It’s a wonderfully exhausting and overwhelming time for all of us.   Kiddos, especially ones with adoption in their past, can have a really rough go with the crowds, the new schedule (no matter how hard we try to stick to the same old one) and all the new and different goings on.  Tempers can be short and coping skills can be forgotten.  Insecurities and fear bubble to the surface and almost anything can be cause for a fit, or worse, a complete shut down.  Sometimes I feel like I have no idea how to parent my sweet babies with their complicated backgrounds, but we make it through to the next challenge, together.  They are so remarkable!  They were overwhelmed.  They were often on the verge of a break down.  They were asleep seconds after their heads hit pillows.  They had a blast!  They colored pictures and put them under the tree so they could give gifts too.  They looked in Milo’s and Nay’s stockings before they looked in their own.  They took turns opening presents, even many that were for others (thanks for letting them help!).  They said thank you and a few times they said it without prompting.  They laughed and sang.  They danced and played.  They were delighted to see that it snowed for their first Christmas.  They were even somewhat patient with my need to take a thousand pictures.  “Why another one Mommy?”  “Our first Christman a big deal Mommy?”  Tried a few times to tell them about last Christmas, when we had nothing but the same photo we’d been looking at for so many months and a sad reality that the wait continued, but never could get it out.  Much better to cuddle and read, to dance and bake, to put way too much tape on gifts, and to drive around looking at lights anyway.

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25
Dec
12

merry christmas

Merry Christmas from the Farmer girls!

 

23
Dec
12

cornrows

Keta’s first cornrows (love this!) and Francine’s wiggle worm twist-out up do (already coming out).
I’m getting better 🙂 Just don’t look at the parts too closely.

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21
Dec
12

last week

Everything that has happened, happened “last week” no matter if it was indeed last week or yesterday or earlier today or in DRC before I knew my girls.  Even if it will happen tomorrow or later today, it’s last week.  Finally able to upload photos from last week.  Here they are trying their first candy canes last week at Bibi’s, and some others just for fun.
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19
Dec
12

talking

Mama, I going be five on my second birthday?

How did she figure out that since she’ll be four in February (her first recognized birthday) that the next February, on her second birthday, she’ll be five?

Also, I cannot figure out how these two can speak and understand the amount of English that they can when the only adult in the house is so rarely given a turn to talk.  Typically, those rare occasions are in response to the ever popular with three-year olds question, “Why?”  Even when a specific why question is asked a seemingly endless amount of follow-up why questions are immediately asked, no matter how thoroughly the original why question is answered or how desperately the answerer tries to avoid further whys.  Sometimes, the only possible answer to the fifth or sixth follow-up why has to be, “I just told you why.”  To which the obvious reply is, “Why?”  Then I wish it wouldn’t be my turn to talk again for a while.  Good times.

Lately, all of the photos I’ve taken are of Keta standing near a red (or whatever color Francine is wearing) blur, but apparently there will be endless errors in trying to upload even those.

 

 

 

 

16
Dec
12

santa

I was a little surprised they actually did it , but both girls sat on Santa’s lap.  The train ride to see him, and the fact that they saw the kid in front of them get a candy cane when it was all over, played a big part in their decision.  They’re excited, more than fearful, about the whole thing now.  Funny that I’m proud, and have photo documentation of them sitting on the lap of a stranger.  And, if a stranger hands you candy, don’t forget to say thank you.  I feel a small bit of parenting failure. 😉

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13
Dec
12

q & a

Never have I been asked so many questions in such a short period of time as the ten minutes I attempted to take a bath and relax.  In all honesty I knew it was highly unlikely (alright, I knew it would be a Christmas miracle) that I’d be able to relax with two little ones right outside the door, but after a week with pre-Christmas break, super squirrely 8th graders I had to try.  I’m not ready talk to about the week, but the questions were pretty entertaining. Relaxing?  Not so much.

Mama, what toys you play with?

Mama, you swimming?

You get your hair wet mama?

Can we comb your hair mama?

Mama, you SCUBA diving?

Mama, why you take long long time?

Mama, can we help you splash?

Repeat, repeat, repeat

Then a moment of silence which I knew could not be good.

Then another round of questions, thankfully.

IMG_1704Check out http://www.shonacongostore.com for great hand-made items from Eastern DRC.  We love all the things we’ve purchased, I love to be able to give my girls something from their birth country and 100% of the profits goes to the women who make the goods.  Everyone wins!

11
Dec
12

six months home

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six months home

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